Life Coaching can be an exhilarating process. Depending on the client’s goals, it can be a simple short-term interaction or a more in-depth kaleidoscopic transformation. Change is quirky and miraculous; even small changes can ripple through a life to subtle yet profound effect. According to a study conducted by the International Coach Federation, 98.5% of coaching clients feel their investment of time and money in a coach was well worth it!
A number of secrets regarding change:
- An amazing feature of the human organism is your ability to coalesce your body, mind as well as spirit around a goal. Great teachers as well as leaders know this. Though, goals lacking specificity, a realistic context and achievable time frame, lead to lack of clarity and ultimately to disappointment. When goals in the workplace lack clarity, leaders experience resistance, which is frequently misinterpreted as stubbornness or worse. This is because unfocused goals of Clergy Coaching are difficult to act upon.
- Making unclear goals is a common mistake individuals make too. In part, this results from choosing our direction based on what you think you should want (this is a biggie), what you hope you can do, or what others want us to want to be doing
rather than what holds meaning for us.
- Contrary to the messages you receive from parents, teachers, advertisements, self-help books, friends, and coaches (the kind with the whistles and cleats), you can’t coerce ourselves into wanting what others want or what you think you should want; at least, not for long.
- When your goals are inauthentic, to your utter surprise, you resist, you avoid – you fail. Luckily, illuminating and defining meaningful (to the client) goals that are lit by motivation, grounded in values and which are as crystal clear as sparkling water are essential elements of Life Coaching.
- Creating goals on Clergy Coaching, no matter how meaningful, is just one part of the change process. You may already have noticed that not only can you not coerce ourselves to do what you think you should; you can’t even coerce ourselves to do what you actually want – although you This is a secret that many Life Coaches don’t even know.
Resistance as well as avoidance is not the enemy
It’s normal, virtually inevitable, that we will encounter resistance and avoidance in varying degrees at different points along the way to reaching our well-formed goals. Although this can be the most difficult aspect of the Clergy Coaching process for any client, it is at these very moments that the coaching partnership can be most helpful and the work the deepest. An interactive coaching partnership can mitigate the loneliness and vulnerability that are natural responses to change. And, if a client is willing, tackling the inner “taskmaster” can make the difference between momentary and lasting change.
Not everyone wants to use Clergy Coaching approach and it’s not a part of every coach’s skill set. A coaching client is always in charge of how far and how deep he or she is willing to go.